In my lackadaisical, insouciant fashion, I scanned a few posts on praise which praised praise for its beneficial effects on people, who generally seemed starved for praise and insistent on its compulsory deployment. This tweaked my contrariness.
Praise includes articulation, adulation, comments and acts that demonstrate admiration and approval of conduct. The tone of delivery is the most important.
Young children are positively reinforced by praise for almost any action they perform that has not been forbidden. It frequently becomes an expectation and so its worth becomes diluted by inappropriate use.
It takes a brave husband to fail to praise a new dress or hairstyle.
Where does that leave honest reaction and informed opinion?
I agree that they should be framed gently and considerately and attempt should be made to express some positive feelings. The need for encouragement and support in motivating others is paramount – that is not necessarily praise.
The English have a technique which can express a lack of real admiration which they call damning with faint praise which can be quite effective if the object thereof is reasonably astute. Therein lies the rub, because many people have become conditioned to unstinting praise and allergic to criticism.
The religious unconditionally praise deities, which appear to be affirmations of their faith. Is this from where unconditional praise stems?
Maybe so – all I am saying is that praise should always be measured and considered so that it is always true and appropriate and not just a sop to meet the expectations of the over-indulged.
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Do husbands ever notice that their wife have a new hair style or dress
They should, most do. You are a brave man in this day and age to state such a question. Perhaps your tongue is in your cheek? It better be or some angry anti-misogynist may rip it out!